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Absolutely not
My body is not public domain. The book I am reading is not public domain. I could have had a very pleasant conversation with the woman in her 50's or 60's who stopped to look at my book and talk with me about Comic-Con.

I could have if she didn't start off by touching my shoulder and then next lift part of my book up to see what I was reading.


Not acceptable.


Respect personal space, and don't touch people you don't know - and sometimes even people you do. And don't fiddle with something people are reading if you don't know them well. It's not rocket science, people.

At least she seemed contrite when she walked off.

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From: ojuang Date: August 12th, 2009 05:36 pm (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)

pregnant mom bellies are public domain

If you talk to pregnant women, you find out that random people on the street will come up and rub their belly.
merhawk From: merhawk Date: August 12th, 2009 06:03 pm (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)

Re: pregnant mom bellies are public domain

Oh, I know. And a black woman's hair (or anyone's "unique" hair) is supposed to be public domain as well.

I cry Bullshit. It's not your body, you need permission to touch if it's not a medical emergency. Period. No exceptions.
verbicide From: verbicide Date: August 12th, 2009 07:35 pm (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
I don't know what is wrong with the brains of people who do that. You may be a touchy-feely person and that's all well. Stick to touching and feeling people who you have confirmed are amenable to it.

That just vicariously pissed me off. NO TOUCHING!
merhawk From: merhawk Date: August 13th, 2009 06:43 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
Preach it!
lugonn From: lugonn Date: August 13th, 2009 06:20 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
That seems weirdly pushy for US culture. Did she seem foreign to you?
merhawk From: merhawk Date: August 13th, 2009 06:42 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
*wide eyed look* You've never had strangers grab at your books to see what you're reading, or touch you while trying to talk with you? How odd. Perhaps because you're a male they don't see you as much as "fair game" as us females.

Because we're sweet, and kind, and are just overwrought if they mind others being too familiar with them.

And, no, she was very much from the US. Not foreign in any way, shape, or form. Kinda reminded me, body type & looks, of my mother, in fact.
lugonn From: lugonn Date: August 13th, 2009 06:48 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
There is a level at which I realize that many find me physically intimidating. But I rarely think about it. And I tend to base my analysis of how people act based upon how they act around me.

It's always odd to me to find that other people have such wildly different experiences, especially when these weird things happen to them on a semi-routine basis and I find the behavior almost unimaginable.

Sure, I've been touched before without welcoming the stranger touching me, but it is rare. I've never had someone do something as freaky as actually lifting my book to see what I was reading; that's seem way over the line. But typically even the touch would have garnered a withering glare that makes most people back off (c.f. physically intimidating).
merhawk From: merhawk Date: August 13th, 2009 06:54 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
It doesn't happen as much as it used to, but people being overly familiar with me due to my femaleness is not an isolated incident (see homeless guy incident for example).

And it's been wondered why I have such disdain for most people.
From: corruptedjasper Date: August 15th, 2009 11:32 pm (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
I've got long hair these days, and I've had people touch it uninvited. It's just odd. I'm not exactly overtly not-a-threat myself, at 194 cm or so. Nor female.

Lifting up the book -- classmates, yes. Total strangers, no.

One thing that confuses the issue is that at a con, everybody might suddenly start to look like an intimate friend even if you don't know them from Adam. At least, so I'm told, I've never experienced it myself.

merhawk From: merhawk Date: August 15th, 2009 11:36 pm (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
If I had been at a convention, maybe that would have been relevant. Except, it's still not because even at a convention it's inexcusable.

SDCC has been over for weeks. I'm currently at home, being molested locally.
From: corruptedjasper Date: August 16th, 2009 12:19 am (UTC) (Permanent Entry Link)
Ah, sorry about that. I've been reading an awful lot in the Friends list about the Worldcon, and I think I misfiled you there somehow.

In that case, no ambiguity whatsoever, no.
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