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Due to the LiveJournal servers being moved to Russia, the removal of https security from the platform, and the fact that the Russian government has been censoring and causing issues for Russian dissidents who use this service, I will no longer be posting to it and very probably no longer reading it either.

I'm over at Dreamwidth with the same user name. I'm also on Tumblr and G+; ask if you can't figure out those logins and you want to subscribe. I don't plan to delete this journal (at least not yet), but I will be cleaning it up and deleting entries that are mirrored at DW.
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Locked down

This journal is mostly, but not fully, locked. If you want to read the locked posts, friend me. I do always pay attention to my friending requests, though I won't promise that I will either friend you or - if I do friend you - put you on my default reading queue.

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Street harassment

Today while taking my walk, I ended up in an intersection with a male waiting for the light to change. I was talking with a friend on the phone, and noticed that he had angled himself to look me over like a piece of meat.

Hawk: crosses arms across chest and glares, while moving away from him.
Pervert: continues to obviously stare at my chest.
Hawk (talking on phone loudly): There's a pervert here looking me over. He's being incredibly skeezy staring me up and down.
Pervert: Moves behind pillar to make it look as if he's not looking me up and down.
Hawk (talking on phone loudly): No, he just moved behind the pillar thinking that makes him less of a slime ball. He's still starting at my T&A
Pervert: checks me out one last time and then slinks farther behind pillar so he can't actually see me.

My friend thought I should be flattered that he finds me good looking (guess I've lost enough weight, right!) but it's just sleazy and lewd. If it hadn't been a busy street corner, I wouldn't be surprised if he'd tried to put hands on me.

It is NOT a compliment when you're just walking on the street and get looked up and down and all around. This is not the first time it's happened to me, and unfortunately it's not going to be the last. Hopefully, by calling him out loudly and publicly, he'll think twice about his actions. Because, no matter what anyone says, it's not my responsibility to dress in a burqa to stop the male gaze. I shouldn't have to police my clothes to make sure that I'm not harassed. Men who are doing it (and women too - I've been sexually assaulted by a woman before at a friend's party) need to own their own behavior and not harass women. This isn't a woman problem, this is a harasser problem.

So let's start letting them know even more that their behavior is unacceptable. They need to be called out. And usually by someone who is like them; I'm just the "other". I'm the bitch that doesn't know how to take a compliment. I'm the frigid slut because I don't want to have their attention. I'm whatever excuse they want to make, to make it all about me not being willing to have their gaze/hands all over me. What if this had been a woman a little less sure of herself? Or too young to know how to handle it? I have nieces at the age that people like this start harassing. I don't want them to have to go through what I've had to. I don't want them to have to tell their friends "Oh, it wasn't so bad. It wasn't rape at least." [Yes, that's what I said to my friend on the phone when she was horrified that it had happened.] I want them to have the freedom to be able to not understand how it happens.

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Stereotypes need to go away

Look, I'm all about getting to a world we have enough representation of various groups that these sorts of videos are just random coincidence and aren't representative of subconscious biases. Until we get to that world, however, can people please check themselves before putting something like this out?

It's not like it's that difficult to check on this one. Blond hair, pale woman purchasing car? Check. Black choir in the background singing to support the white woman? Check. The singing is supporting her buying on impulse & emotion instead of facts about the car? Check. Is this commercial using tons of stereotypes? Check. Should we revamp it to be less stereotyped? Yes!!

If only they'd done that last check before putting this out on the national stage.

2016 Honda Fit | Honda Summer Clearance Event

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Fascinating studies on asthma

Amish's low asthma rates could be due to exposure to cow germs, study suggests
The Amish may be farming the cure for asthma in barnyard animals

Fascinating study. I hope that they can figure out the exact triggers and help with asthmatic cases.

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Unexpectedness

I've got music on in the background, and a random political satire song from the Capitol Steps came up. It's from their 1994 album "Stand by your Dan" entitled Gorby Gorbachev. The line that caught my attention was ..."there’s a guy who told that Donald Trump my schedule’s got no room..."

So it seems that the corridors of power know that Trump's been colluding with the Russian's for over 20 years. 😏

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